5 Reasons You Should Stop Seeing Him
Published on July 14, 2015
Have you ever wondered whether or not a guy is worth your time? The answer to that has a lot to do with whether or not he shows you that he values it. If the guy you’ve been seeing does any of the following on the regular, you shouldn’t spend any more time with him.
He won’t pick up the phone.
A man that really cares for you will give you a call, no matter how short the conversation might be. If you only get text messages from a guy, he’s showing you that he’s only willing to talk to you at his convenience. With this type of communication, you can answer in your own time and really have time to formulate your response. If he replies hours after you have responded to him, he doesn’t value your time. If his responses are short, almost to the point of being rude, he’s just not that into you.
He doesn’t confirm plans.
If you’re dealing with a guy that “kinda” sets a date with you, but you’re always the one to nail down plans, there’s a problem. This can indicate either a communication problem or that he simply doesn’t care much. Either way, this is not someone you need to waste your time on. Communication is important to relationships. If he’s showing communication problems this early, you shouldn’t ignore that red flag. If he says “Let’s go for sushi on Friday” but never confirms a place or time (and does this often) he shows that he’s willing to let you do all the work. If he isn’t really showing that he’s willing to put forth any effort, you should stop seeing him.
He’s constantly trying to get you to his house.
You’re discomfort with being alone with him in his home is not you being paranoid or a prude. You should conduct your dating life in the way that you see fit. If you think it’s too early to be going to his house, that’s your decision and he shouldn’t be pressuring you. If you are feeling like there’s pressure to go to his place or yours, you don’t have to stand for it. He doesn’t respect your boundaries or your values.
He tries to “perfect” you.
You’re absolutely beautiful the way you are. When the man you’re seeing begins telling you ways that you can improve yourself, don’t take this as a compliment. This is his way of trying to make you into what he wants. It’s your look, and your confidence.
He asks for nudes.
This is crude if nothing else. Sending nudes to a guy also poses serious consequences for your reputation. In this digital age, everyone knows that, and his request for nudes or “sexy” pictures is disregarding any implications these images could have for you and your future. He’s very plainly letting you know that he’s interested in instant gratification. If this is not what you want, definitely stop seeing this guy.